Thoughts for my high schoolers

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Todays thought is about the prom. My little brother is in high school and he's been asking me what I did to get a date to prom. There isn't a particular order to all of this so things might be random at times.

I remember my first prom (11th grade) was kinda boring to say the least. I was really nervous and I went with a girl that I really liked, but I really never asked her to go.

Men, take it from me... this sucks! Passivity is never an attractive male trait. I look back on it and cringe...I was lucky my date asked me or actually she called, and told me that she would go with me...LOL!

I encourage all guys or people who have a girlfriends to take the initiative to wow your date! Its fun. Don't think of it as risking your heart.

Take them on the date that all others will be compared to. Do it for you as much as for them... treat them like you would want to be treated. Don't know why but I like being the standard to which others are compared but I do.

Little brother read closely but not too closely as I'm still single!

1. I decided on my date. I didn't personally know her. Had never even spoken to her. Admittedly, it was based on the fact that she was attractive. I asked a few teachers what she was like and I asked one teacher to introduce us.

I know its hard, but an introduction from a trusted person is invaluable. It definitely helps if you are on good terms with your teachers... from there I got a phone number and made a few friendly conversational calls no more than a few minutes each... try to ask something that she wants to talk about and just listen, maybe give a little unopinionated non-judgemental commentary about what she is saying.

I would indirectly ask about prom even going so far as to make her think that I would ask but then I wouldn't. You'll see why later. People like anticipation.

Its a good idea to make sure you feel some measure of chemistry before going on...it will save you some worrying. Don't know if you have chemistry or not? That's a whole other article!

2. I talked to a counselor to figure out her schedule (I had to tell the counselor about the plan to ask her out in order to get this info).

3. I bought flowers from walmart...lots of them for cheap maybe 25-30 dollars. At this age women often don't know quality flowers from walmart specials so that will work for what you are trying to do here. This isn't a proposal.

ADDED BONUS: I figured out her favorite flower also. I think I talked to a mutual friend and asked her to bring it up indirectly.

4. I divided the flowers up before school and went to every class that she would attend that day. I asked each teacher to hand them to her during or after class. They were not to tell her where they came from. There were little messages in each one, I can't quite remember what they were. But I think funny messages are best because it helps things not seem overly serious.

Arranged for 2 teachers to give her the opportunity to place flowers in the teacher's lounge refrigerator so that she wouldnt have to carry them around all day. In hindsight, having the teacher present the flowers right at the end of class means an entire class of wondering whether or not theres more...so that might work too.

Anyway by lunch time half the school was talking about this girl getting flowers during not one but every class. This seems kinda boring to me now, but trust me nobody does this in high school.

Now all these girls want to know more about this unknown guy straight out of a cheesy romantic comedy. John, even if things don't work out, trust me, you will be more than OK!

That being said, I was oblivious to that attention... because I decided to place my affections in what was admittedly a bad choice lol live and learn. We will definitely discuss who is worth the time and who isn't :)

Thats about it. Oh I made sure I was out of class a few minutes early so that I could meet her in the hall with the last flower...her favorite; and say "I wanted to ask you to prom the other day but I wanted it to be special..." or something like that... LOL I promise it was like I flipped the emotion switch or something. Strangely enough, there was some music playing in the hall and to this day I am associated with that song. Its like an imprint or something.

Give it your best shot and see what happens! The game of life is not fun if youre standing on the sidelines.

Good Luck Little Bro!